Looking for Self-worth from outside is like expecting somebody else to breathe for you

Welcome!

Thank you for joining me on this 12-step journey towards increasing your Creative flow and reducing stress.

I’m Rita, and I am a Healer and a teacher. It’s my calling to help people evolve, elevate and expand their thinking. I help people to heal through natural modalities that fall outside of traditional medicine. That’s exactly what you will find here, so I hope you’ll stay!

In the past few weeks I have shared 10 actionable steps you can take to reduce stress and increase Creativity, thereby boosting your quality of Life. Your task has been to take in the information and apply it in your day-to-day. Have you been challenged?

With just two steps to go, the finish line is in sight. Let’s get to it then!

Find value from within

Think back to a time when you’ve completed a project or task that was difficult, overwhelming, or emotionally burdening you. Upon completion, you likely had a sense of accomplishment, maybe you were glowing within or felt deep feelings of relief or joy.

Now recall whether those soaring emotions were dampened by a “wet blanket”, or someone who stole your thunder. That must have been pretty deflating and discouraging!

People who don’t support, energize, or encourage your growth are straight up wet blankets. They put out your fire of passion, knock you down when you are high, and create dissension and dis-ease.

These people are energy blockers in the physical form, and they will stifle your flow of Creativity and keep you in an activated stress state. Do not expect them to help or support you in your growth Journey.

External vs. internal Self-worth

Just as it sounds, with external Self-worth your sense of value and worth come from outside of yourself. For example, love, respect, and care for yourself that are based solely on material gains or adoration from others.

Examples that provide external value can include sex, drugs or alcohol, food, people pleasing, perfectionism and accomplishments, and physical attractiveness.

Internal Self-worth, on the other hand, is when your sense of value and worth come from within. Your internal value comes from doing the hard work of examining your Self and clearing the shadows out of your closet, so to speak.

Examples that provide internal value can include standing up for yourself, advocating for yourself or someone else, working through a difficult project or situation, and responding to a situation outside of Ego.

Just as we learn to let others determine our value, so must we unlearn this harmful thought process. Take a moment to look at the patterns of how you love, care, and respect yourself. Find one place where you might be relying on external validation and actively work towards inner validation.

There is a connection between Self-nurturing, Self-worth, and Self-respect.

If you can learn to respect your Self more, you will want to take better care of yourself, and in turn, will find your value and worth from within rather than without.

Similarly, if you nurture your Self a little every now and then, you will inevitably grow to respect yourself more and the result is higher feelings of Self-worth.

Incorporating these 11 steps (and the soon coming 12th step) into your daily, weekly, and/or monthly routines of Self-care are one sure fire way of getting the ball rolling.

Some other tools include: exercise; meditation; prayer; disconnecting from electronics for extended periods of time; reading a book; utilizing essential oils, Earth crystals and gemstones; taking a hot bubble bath; getting a facial, manicure, or pedicure; journaling; taking a weekend retreat; walking in Nature; changing your diet; and surrounding yourself with love and people who uplift you.

Until next time,